‘Healing Isn’t Linear’ And Other Affirmations For When Your White Friend’s Ass Is Bigger Than Yours
Healing isn’t linear. It’s bumpy and sometimes messy. Something that works for others may not work for you. Only you know what’s best for your journey, especially when it comes to being out-assed by your white friends (“silence is violence” also applies to butt stuff, thank you very much). Read on for more affirmations that’ll put that juice back in that back and remind you just who the F you are!
It’s okay to cry. Tears are a normal, healthy way to process your emotions. They can even reduce stress and release endorphins! It’s beneficial to cry openly and loudly when you and Maude both wear Skims, but she’s got a honking wagon and you’ve got two clementines in a wheelbarrow.
Other people’s behavior is a reflection of their inner world. One of the hardest pills to swallow is that other people’s actions have nothing to do with you and everything to do with themselves. The fact that Sloane’s inner world is phat, delectable, and claps so hard that all the neighborhood dogs need anxiety chews isn’t about you, and that’s okay.
I am insightful and intuitive. You know that tickling feeling you get in your gut, the one that’s always right about the new person’s vibe (hint: it's off)? That’s your intuition! Get into it and intuit that you will have to do months of Bulgarian split squats to even eclipse the small planet in Hadley’s trousers.
I will not allow anyone to violate my boundaries. Working through intergenerational trauma isn’t easy. Sometimes you even have to repeat your wishes for them to be honored. Tamsin might need a little reminder that her biologically-larger booty is the opposite of reparations, just sayin’!
I am whole, worthy, and complete. Sometimes, we seek qualities in others to avoid embodying them ourselves. Remember: all that you need is already within you! Yes, Sierra June’s Goliath is devastating your David, but only you have the power to decide how you feel about that.
Authentic relationships don’t require me to abandon myself. The people that make life beautiful don’t always sweep you off your feet or make you see all the colors of a sunset. They can, but the real goodness comes from those who help you feel like the very best version of yourself. Niamh’s supersized dump truck occasionally gets you down, but truthfully, you’re happy for her. She supports you at your lowest, celebrates your wins like her own, and loves you just as you are. Isn’t that what life’s all about?*
*Drop that 🍑 routine right now, though. Deadass.
